lost loved one

[bohunt]

Hello my name is bo, just recently on jan 13th lost my dog penny to cushings. It was an extremely hard day. Never thought I would be so attached to a dog that much. Missing her in the mornings barking to wake me up for breakfast, and her wagging her tail knowing I was awake and could now start in spoiling her rotten. It is very hard letting go but now my other dog is already getting depressed. The two of them have not been seperated for more than 24hrs in almost 10yrs. Worried about copper, can anyone tell me how to cope with this and to help copper get through this. They are bot mini dachshunds, and are sweet dogs. Thanks and sorry so long, first time.

[Squirt's Mom]

Hi Bo,

I am so sorry that your first post has to be one of such sorrow. We understand your pain so please feel free to talk to us. We have broad, soft shoulders and strong arms to hold you as long as needed. There are no rules to grieving; we each grieve in our own way for as long as we need.

Penny's name has been added to our In Loving Memory thread for 2014. We would love to include a photo of her as well so if that is ok with you, please send a copy of your favorite pic to k9cushings@gmail.com and we will upload it for you into the In Loving Memory album.

Our other babies do experience grief as well and can become depressed just as we do when a loss occurs. There are things you can do that may help. Here is a link from the ILM section that offers other links for support for you as well as Copper -

http://www.k9cushings.com/forum/showthread.php?t=171

Our condolences to you and yours,
Leslie, Squirt, Trinket, Brick, Sophie, Grace and all our Angels


I ONLY WANTED YOU

They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.

A million times I needed you,
a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.

In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
no one could ever fill.

If tears could build a stairway
and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven
and bring you back again.

Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.

--- Anonymous ---

[molly muffin]

Oh no, I am so sorry that you lost your precious Penny. :( My heart breaks for you as we all know how terribly hard this is.
If you have some friends with dogs that copper might have some play dates with, that might help. They miss the interaction that they had on a daily basis usually. A walk in a park maybe.
It is hard and they grief just as we do. :(

My sincerest condolences,
Sharlene and molly muffin

[bohunt]

Thank you so very much for the thoughts, it is a difficult time.

[doxiesrock912]

Bo,
I am so sorry for your loss. This disease is horrible :-(

Lavish attention on your dog who is still with you. They suffer the loss as much as we do. Keep him/her occupied as much as you can, socialize with other dogs too if he/she is good with others. Visit nursing homes or other places where he/she can experience new, positive experiences.

I have a mini doxie too, I swear that she's part human. They are intelligent, sensitive dogs.

[bohunt]

Yes you are correct, they are human and a cherished family member. The last two days have been really hard, and I miss her dearly. Her cushings treatment was followed aggressively. She had been doing well, eating and drinking water. It was just two much for her. I talked to her vet and he was telling me she had a massive stroke and probably never felt anything. I was happy to hear that. But I do miss my baby girl, she was a sweetheart. I want to think you for your thoughts and concerns. Very much appreciated

[gatorgirl_bama]

Welcome to the group Bo and I'm so sorry to hear about Penny. I too lost my baby of 14 1/2 years to Cushings in August and my 16 y.o. to CHF in December. They left a 2 y.o. brother that had to grieve twice in one year. When we first lost Tia, Tank searched our house for well over a month looking for her. As heart broken as my husband and I were, it was worst watching him. He went to doggy daycare, but the hunt was on when he came in the door. Tippi was too old to play with him, but he always knew she was there. He knew 4-5 days before we knew that we were loosing her. He laid around, wouldn't play, wouldn't eat. My husband thought something was wrong with him. It's been a little over two weeks since Tippi passed. He's still not quite himself, but he's getting there. He gets lots of love and attention to try to take his mind off of the girls. Daycare has helped him a lot.

As for me, I can't say I've gotten over losing my girls. I cry everyday, but coming here and having the love and support of so many wonderful, knowledgeable "friends" is a Godsend.

Much love to you and Copper,
Donna

[Bo's Mom]

Hi Bo,
I am so sorry to read about your little girl. Losing my little Angel, his name was Bo too ;) was one of the hardest things for me and my family, including his little brother Latte. We will be here 24 hours/day and 365 days/year to share in your grief and even when those good times and memories return. ((((HUGS))))

[bohunt]

Thank you again for the support. She has been gone for three days, seems everything is a constant reminder of her. I miss her so much, she was so sweet and I loved her so very much. K9's contacted me and sent some comforting words and wanted me to send them a pic of her, i hpe i can find it.The help and support has been wonderful, and be patient with me I am new and not sure how all this works.

[molly muffin]

That is okay. A picture, any picture you like can be emailed to k9 and they will make sure it is added to the in loving memory thread.

It is not easy to lose a valued member of the family, ever. We never stop missing them.

hugs,
Sharlene and molly muffin

[Cooper is missed]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Like you I came to this forum after my dog died. My Cooper has been gone since September and this week was the first time I actually didn't remember and relive the day he went. It was a Tuesday, the day after Labor Day and every Tuesday since at 12:30 pm I have cried and remember watching him go. I still have a teary moments now and then but it's getting better. His best buddy Max, my JRT wandered through the house for several days looking for him in every room. Sniffing his bowl and where he slept on the tile. It was so sad and made me cry even more. We are all getting through the grief and have put a picture of him by his ashes on the mantel. He will never be replaced or forgotten but it does get better. I think Max was helped a by our other dog Sadie, they have become closer and cuddle together now. We also adopted a little 3yo beagle girl in November. She's brought some youth into the mix and gets the two older dogs to play. I hope you find a way to heal and help Copper heal as well. They really are like siblings and I can't even imagine how my kids would feel if they lost one of their sisters or brothers.

[Woodydog]

I,m so sorry for your loss. I lost my furbaby just before Christmas and I know how you must be feeling.

[bohunt]

Still after five days I am missing my baby girl. Still extremely hard especially my daily routine with her. Copper constantly is looking for her throughout the house. He also is missing her ans does not understand why she is gone. Not wanting or could never replace penny, but am thinking of adopting another dog for copper. Is this to soon or is this a bad idea. Would appreciate some advice and support on this matter. Thanks so much

[molly muffin]

Five days is a minute amount of time in the world of grief. There isn't anything set in stone that says, today will be the day I start to feel better. It just is what it is and sometimes it takes awhile to work your way through grieving.

As far as getting another pup for copper. That too isn't any kind of set time frame. We have people here on the forum who have gotten another sooner after losing their precious furbabies and others who wait. It is completely up to you and what you feel like. We certainly don't judge one way or another around here. :)

Of course you are not replacing your baby girl, that will never happen, not today, not 5 years from now. A heart expands and has room enough for all. It might help Cooper and it might help you to get someone to be company for him. Only you can know if you are ready to do that and we will support you no matter what.

If you are thinking about it, then why don't you go to a rescue and see how you feel to be there. Maybe there is a mini daschund rescue in your area? or just somewhere that you can interact with other pups and see how that makes you feel. Baby steps, but maybe something like that will help you to know if you are ready or not to take that step.

hugs,
Sharlene and Molly Muffin

[bohunt]

I would like to thank everyone for the thoughts and prayers. It is a godsend for the support, it helps more than anyone can ever imagine. My baby girl is still missed and very much loved. Also today my vet and his staff sent a card for penny, she also touched their heart as well. She was a sweetheart.